I find that whenever the topic of Valentine’s Day crops up, it gets either one of two responses; some people go crazy for it, others despise it.
But why is this the case?
In the run up to Valentine’s Day, I always see a lot of posts on social media about being single on Valentine’s Day, implying that many people feel down and depressed when the 14th of February comes around, as they have no significant other to share it with.
I can’t lie that I’ve also felt this way in the past too. Before I got into a relationship, I would scoff and roll my eyes at the sight of any extravagant displays of balloons, flowers and cuddly toys that greeted me whenever I would walk into a store. I would loathe the fact that Valentine’s Day was a yearly reminder that yep, you’re still single.
Going to school on Valentine’s Day felt like slow torture, having to sit in lessons whilst my classmates snuck cards around the room to each other as I tried to reassure myself that my ‘Valentine’ must have just left mine at home. lol
As I’ve grown older, I’ve reflected on these feelings.
Why do we feel this way? Can we enjoy Valentine’s Day regardless of whether we are in a relationship or not? Is it just about celebrating your love for your crush/boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife/significant other?
In my opinion, I don’t think Valentine’s Day is just for those of us that are with someone. Even though whenever we see Valentine’s cards, adverts and gifts they are designed to be given to your partner,there are actually so many other people in your life that you could celebrate your love for. Think about how many people in your life you can say that you love. How about your best friend that has always had your back? What about your mum or dad who has always been there for you? What about yourself?!
We are so used to associating Valentine’s Day with celebrating your romantic love with another person that when we don’t have that sort of person around us, we dismiss all of the other ‘loves’ in our lives.
I believe that Valentine’s Day is a time when we can take the opportunity to show somebody we love them. Regardless of whether that love is romantic, platonic or unconditional.
So if you are single on Valentine’s Day and you feel down in the dumps about it, I would challenge your feelings about it. Sure, you might not have a partner to spend it with now, but think about all the other amazing people in your life that you love and that love you back.
Why not go out for cocktails and pizza with your friends?
How about buying your mum and dad those box of chocolates they love?
Heck, BAKE YOURSELF A HEART SHAPED CAKE BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT.
Of course, if you are in a relationship on Valentine’s Day, take this opportunity to make time for your partner.
Due to our hectic and often busy lifestyles, we can sometimes unintentionally put romance on the backburner. I’ve heard time and time again that ‘you should make an effort all year round, not just for Valentine’s Day’. While that may be true, how many of use can honestly say we still make as much of an effort in our relationships as we did when it first started? I’ll hold my hands up and say that I don’t send as many cute, random texts as I used to and we don’t go on as many dinner dates as we once did, but of course the love is still there. So whenever you decide to celebrate it, take time out to enjoy each other’s company.
Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be a reminder of what we haven’t got. It should remind us just how much we have.